It is a very high stage on the path
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It is a very high stage on the path of love when a man really learns to
love another with a love that asks no return.
Bowl of Saki, October 7, by Hazrat Inayat Khan
Commentary by Hazrat Inayat Khan:
The nature of life on earth is illusory and in the Sanskrit tongue it is
called Maya or illusion, and every soul having the spark of the divine
love, forgets the use and the purpose of that spark and begins to love
By a keen study of human life, man will find that as a rule, when he claims
that he loves, in reality he loves himself, he loves his own benefit in
life, he loves another for the help that other gives, for his goodness, for
his kindness, for his service, but in all this he surely loves himself, and
it is for himself all the while he thinks he loves another.
It is a very high stage in the path of love when man really learns to love
another with a love that asks no return, when he does not seek love for the
sake of love in return, then love becomes pure, the lover gives, and gives
and gives, but even that is not the purpose of life, it is still greater.
The Perfect One who is the source and origin of the whole creation, is the
Perfection of Beauty. All beauty on earth or in heaven belongs to Him, and
the purpose of the creation of every soul is to progress in the path of
love until the soul arrives at a stage where it may find the Perfection of
The development of love is often hindered by different obstacles in life.
The first obstacle is ourselves. We begin our life with selfishness, and
all that we want is for self, and if there is a tendency to love, it is for
one’s own happiness, and one’s own joy. When the question comes, ‘How much
do you love me, and how much do I love you?’ it has come to be a trading in
love. ‘I love you, but you do not love me’ is as much as to say, ‘I have
bid so much, and I expect a return of love’. This is trading in love, and
trade cannot lead anywhere, because it makes one think of the self, and
love is beyond that. To love is to give; it is not to take at all. The true
lover never speaks of what he has done for his beloved, for he loves for
love’s sake, not for the sake of a return.
To what does the love of God lead? It leads to that peace and stillness
which can be seen in the life of the tree, which bears fruits and flowers
for others and expects no returns, not even thanks in return. It serves,
and cares for nothing else, not even for appreciation. That is the
attribute of the godly.